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In Memory of Bradford Fernandez

December 1, 1996 - January 21, 2011

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How Suicide Impacts Friends

The following videos were recorded on October 6th, 2011, almost nine (9) months after the suicide of Bradford, at Community Christian Church. The young men and women who volunteered to share their personal stories on our videos talk authentically about their pain. Like many other of his friends, they will never forget Bradford and are forever changed. There is a scar that remains in their heart.

If you have ever contemplated committing suicide - get help. Listen carefully to the messages of Armando, Karen, Greg, Ileen, Mickey and Viviana; suicide destroys the lives of all those that are left behind, not just yours. Every person you have known will be impacted with sadness, hurt and pain in their hearts. Your friends will never be the same. If you think your family does not love you, understand you or will not miss you, you are wrong. You will break their hearts and scar them for life; they will never understand, or overcome completely, your suicide. Even if they move on, pain will remain in their hearts. That is what suicide creates - complete destruction.

If you are confronted with a suicidal person, get them the help they need. Stay with them on the phone, or in person, while you call someone who can help and stop them. Get educated, get trained, learn to distinguish the early warning signs and what to do to save a life. Tomorrow, it could be your son, daughter, a best friend, or someone you love with all your heart.

Training Videos Coming Soon

Oath of Guardianship©

"My friend, I love you. I promise to always watch over you even during your darkest moments; if you need help, I will make sure to find help for you, even if you ask me not to. I promise to not honor any bonds that will ultimately hurt you in any way; it's for your own good. Understand, as a loving friend, it is my responsibility to watch over you. I promise not to let you think that your life is worthless and to dishonor you. YOU MATTER TO ME AND TO THE WORLD; YOU ARE WORTHY OF GOD'S LOVE AND LIFE."

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Bradford's Pledge, written by Ana Fernandez
January 21, 2011

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A Personal Message from Ana Fernandez:

The death of my beloved son, Bradford, shattered my life and tore my heart into pieces. I will never be the same. Bradford's sisters and brother will never be the same; they carry a hole in their heart as a result of his absence. Bradford's friends, also, will never be the same; they have a permanent scar in their hearts. Bradford probably believed no one would miss him, including his family. He was wrong. He was loved beyond understanding. His life and death touched the hearts of many. Suicide is NEVER the answer. It is a permanent destructive solution to a temporary problem. If you've ever thought about suicide and think no one will miss you - you are wrong. If you think the world is "better off without you," - you are wrong. If you think your family, your parents, your siblings won't miss you, you are wrong. No matter how insignificant you feel you are, you matter and are loved. Your suicide will only leave pain, intense suffering, and storms of tears for the people you love. Don't destroy the lives of your loved ones, along with yours. There is always a choice; there is help. You are not alone. All you have to do is to reach out for help.